I loved that movie as a teen (why? I wonder now). But, this thing you said: "Love asks a completely different question. Not how do I win this, but how do we both come out whole? It isn’t keeping score. It’s trying to stay relational, even in the hard conversation." ... this is so important.
This reminded me that the win is the relationship, not being so called, "right." And to be clear, i have a lot of work to do. Because I LOVE being right.
Thanks! And I don't know if me saying avoiding is right. I think it's about how do we have constructive conflict. Is it possible that in an argument or disagreement, both sides can come away winning? I really want to believe yes.
I loved that movie as a teen (why? I wonder now). But, this thing you said: "Love asks a completely different question. Not how do I win this, but how do we both come out whole? It isn’t keeping score. It’s trying to stay relational, even in the hard conversation." ... this is so important.
This reminded me that the win is the relationship, not being so called, "right." And to be clear, i have a lot of work to do. Because I LOVE being right.
You and me both.
I appreciate your thought about the fights we avoided. Yes, there is seldom if ever a winner.
Thanks! And I don't know if me saying avoiding is right. I think it's about how do we have constructive conflict. Is it possible that in an argument or disagreement, both sides can come away winning? I really want to believe yes.
Something to think about!! I’ve seen this movie several times. Good ‘swing’ on it. ❤️
Your note almost makes me want to see Roadhouse for the philosopher bouncer trying to keep the peace when he could easily disturb it.
It's worth it! I am thinking we might need a date night this fall : )